Accountable and Responsible by Lynn Seiser
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Father's Day is in June. I have two sons. They are technically adults
now, but I still feel accountable and responsible for them and to
them. Being in a parental, teaching, or role model position is like
that. It should be like that.
We have a deep responsibility to each other. We have a deep
connection. We have entered and blended into a dance that is mutually
beneficial and nurturing. At times, I am the teacher. At other times,
I am the student. I pass on what was passed to me and my sons will
pass it on to others. I am only a small part in the continual flow
that connects the past, through the present, and far into the future.
As parents, we are responsible and accountable for what we teach our
children. We need to teach them how to make it in the world. All
parents do the best they can. No parent ever wakes up in the morning
making a list of all the ways they can misdirect or harm their
children. Parents give all they have, even what doesn't work for
them. Whatever parents do not give, they do not have. As people, we
need to forgive our parents, ourselves, and our children for
imperfections. We still need to strive to be the best we can be, with
the best interest and safety of our children as our focus, priority,
and goal.
As a Sempai (senior student) I have a similar sense of accountability
and responsibility to my Sensei (teacher), Ryu (school), Doshi (fellow
students), and Kohai (junior students). As a student, I hold my
teachers accountable and responsible to illustrate and demonstrate a
high level of efficiency and effectiveness in martial integrity in an
environment that is safe and conducive to training. It is my privilege
and obligation to pass these lessons on with equal congruency and
ethics.
I am accountable and responsible as a parent, a Sempai, and a
contributing participant of the world community. We all have a social
responsibility to each other to practice a high degree of
ethics. Ethics is simply doing the right thing. The right thing is not
always easy or politically correct, but it is the truth. We usually
know what is the right thing, what the truth is. If we do not know, we
have a responsibility to admit we do not know and then go find out. In
conflict resolution, we must decide that we all win or we all
lose. Like it or not, we are connected and accountable and responsible
to and for each other.
On Father's Day, and everyday, we need to honor all our teachers and
the ones we teach.
Thanks for listening, for the opportunity to be of services, and for
sharing the journey. Now get back to training. KWATZ!
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Lynn Seiser (b. 1950 Pontiac, Michigan) Ph.D. has been a perpetual
student of martial arts, CQC/H2H, FMA/JKD, and other fighting systems
for over 37 year. He currently trains and hold the rank of Sandan
(3rd degree Black Belt) in Tenshinkai Aikido under Sensei Dang Thong
Phong at the Westminster Aikikai
Dojo in Southern California. He is the co-author, with Phong
Sensei, of Aikido Basics (2003), and the (2006) Advanced Aikido
Concepts and Aikido Buki-waza for Tuttle Publishing. His martial art
articles have appears in Black Belt Magazine, Aikido Today Magazine,
and Martial Arts and Combat Sports Magazine. He is the founder of Aiki-Solutions
and is an internationally respected psychotherapist in the clinical
treatment of offenders and victims of violence, trauma, and abuse
living in Marietta, GA.
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